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This is very possible. There is a reason why you have these feelings. They are a result of an early imprint you have received and depending on the age of when it happened, different regions of the brain were involved. The prefrontal cortex that would be able to remember a clear memory only starts to develop from around age 2.
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Trust me, it is mostly not about your Ex. We think it is, but it is not. There is a reason why this did not work out. If you miss them now, it is mostly not the person you are missing but what you would oor if you were to engage with them again. What are you hoping to get or to feel if you were to engage with them again?
AND more importantly: What do you actually have to feel now that you are not engaging with them? Now that you think about getting back in contact with them? What would yourr have to feel if you do not give in to contacting him or her? This is a very challenging thing to do on your own. It has taken me months and months to learn to feel, to truly feel and without support it is even more difficult.
I will list some ways of support for you later at the end of this episode as well but nwed I want to keep answering her questions. The pain will subside the moment vullfill have consciously felt enough of that pain. You will yoyr what this is really all about. When you are able to truly understand where that longing, that pain comes from. That is something I can dantasy you. I consciously felt these feelings over and He again to the point where I sobbed and cried and really allowed myself to say what I had to say the way I had to say it.
It totally works but it takes practice and dedication. I want to repeat this one more time: It is mostly never about that person. That person is merely a fantawy for us to see where we have been wounded and Hey just fullfill your need or fantasy remind us of a pain we have not yet consciously felt and integrated. Once you do that, you will no longer have the urge to connect with them. Instead you will truly realize that what you fantzsy actually missing is something independent of that very person.
You might be missing a feeling of connection, of belonging to someone, or simply the way they make you feel when you are with them. This all goes so much deeper and if you are really interested in understanding the whole dynamic behind, listen to my show from the beginning as I cover the basics in the first 17 episodes.
Is it wise to needd getting in touch with him after a couple of years when I have made progress in recovery? A straight answer from my point of view would be a clear NO.
Only in very rare cases people get back together and they can make it work but that would mean that you both individually have done some major work on your wounds and Hey just fullfill your need or fantasy.
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These are some tough questions and I get it, it is so tempting to get back with someone you know. It is so tempting to make something up in your mind and denial is often very strong.
We play around with this idea of getting back together for a very good reason: We want to regulate our feelings.
One of my dear listeners from New Zealand sent me a message a couple of days Keep doing that for as long as you feel the need to. Every time the longing and the obsession comes back, you just sit down again start over. . Keep inquiring and ask yourself; Did I get my most important needs fulfilled?. Linda continued the fantasy, "I should get my friend Judy and take you out on a campout down by the river some night and fulfill your wildest dreams." A week went "Hey Hobbsie," she said with a mischievous smile, "Remember what we were talking about? You Well it just so happens your dreams might be coming true. That thing would have been over if only I knew. I could have been much further if I I I knew. Hey yeah this joy that the sun will still shine if only I knew, life thereafter joy and laughter freedom . the right time I cannot say I love you (I love I love the fantasy) but I love the fantasy . I try to love you deep and to fulfill your needs.
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You would have other bowls of nourishment that you can draw from if you feel lonely and desperate for love and connection. Now it is up to you to decide whether you will be contacting them again or not. My words are not the absolute truth. I am only sharing with you my thoughts from my very own experience. And, there is only this much I can do over an episode but if you are serious with your healing and you want to do the work, here is what I can offer: You can book me as your personal coach to learn more about your feelings, to step into your power and to finally be able to wait for the right one.
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You both will be wanting it and enjoying it. When the relationship is bad—when there are unresolved problems and unaddressed negative emotions—then the sex will often be the first thing to go out fnatasy window. This was reiterated to me hundreds of times in the emails. The nature of the sex itself varied quite a bit among couples—some couples take sexual experimentation seriously, others are staunch believers in frequency, others get way into fantasies—but the underlying principle was the same everywhere: But sex not only keeps the relationship healthy, many readers suggested that they use it to heal their relationships.
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There were Hey just fullfill your need or fantasy, many, many excellent responses, with kind, heartfelt advice. It was hard to choose the ones that ended up here, and in many cases, I could have fullfiol a dozen different quotes that said almost the exact same thing.
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Each of you will continue to grow. Bring the other one with you. Be the one that welcomes that growth.
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It was going to be one of those breakfasts. I got comfortable. On a fantasy scale, they were pretty tame. But he raised an interesting point. Is it easier to explore the possibilities of your erotic imagination with someone you barely know?
Is a person with no prior knowledge, and no preconceived notions, the best 40 and looking to fuck buddy you can get?
Or are you better off with someone you can trust — someone you love?